Saturn entered the terminal degree of Pisces last week and I have been presented with a series of activities that have to do with boundaries. Not just setting them, but experiencing them and owning them… and allowing other people to do the same.
As a result, I’ve been researching anaretic degrees (the official name for the 30th degree of a sign – aka 29°0’0” – 29°59’59”) and they are associated with crisis, but also transformation. They are hot spots in the chart. With Saturn about to enter uncomfortable Aries on the 13th, this feels to me like a personally important lesson on owning boundary as a concept.
In discussing this with my Jungian, it occurred to me that there’s this… space in between feeling victimized by other people’s boundaries, and actually harming others with your boundaries. When this gap feels small or nonexistent, then it’s challenging to move and breathe. But when you realize the gap is large, that’s quite empowering.
And in that gap is your own ability to set healthy boundaries. It’s also your willingness to allow other people to set their own boundaries.
When you set a boundary, you are deciding: what’s in and what’s out, what you hold close and what you distance, who is enclosed and who is apart, what you share and what you keep private. It’s also about defining: what is the definition of your container? If you say “this is my household” or “this is my family” you are also decreeing “this is not my household” “this is not my family.”
Magically, we set boundaries all the time. Us weirdos are over here whipping up circles, and shielding our people and spaces, and doing protective magic. But sometimes we’re not as willing to do so in our personal lives. Like we don’t feel rude telling the spirits “Go away, go away; into your own heavens, into your own palaces, into your own courses…” but we find we can’t tell that to people who hurt us or make us feel unsafe or who just aren’t, definitionally, within our boundaries.
There’s a lot to unpack under this: toxic family systems, missing stairs, reciprocity and emotional exchange. But the key think I’ve been focusing on is aligning our mundane and magical boundary setting. I think there’s power in standing in that space in between and then setting and owning the lines we draw.
Around and around, around and about;
The Good stays in, the bad stays out.
~ Children’s Circle Casting, source unknown
